Just a Thought…About Muffin Tops

No, not the delicious overhanging part of a breakfast pastry you get with your coffee in the morning.  Although, that is undeniably my favorite part of any muffin…I love when it’s toasted juuuust enough so that when I break off the sides they are juuust a bit crunchy to balance out all of the fluffy baked goodness on the inside.  Though, if you eat muffins for breakfast you are likely to have the “muffin top” I am about to discuss.

What I mean is the awful overhanging part of someones (usually someone of the female persuasion) gut/”love handles” when they’ve squeezed into pants that are way too tight.  In my opinion, I don’t understand why the muffin top exists at all.  If you don’t fit into your jeans why would you show the rest of the world that by somehow squeezing them closed, clearly exposing the rest of you that didn’t make it into them?!  WHY?!  Just because you can get them closed, doesn’t mean they fit people!  All you have to do is buy a bigger size.  Is that so hard?

If you answered yes to that question, I can’t say I don’t understand.  I too hate going up a size, but I also know I will look thinner if my clothes actually fit.  I don’t generally like to point out my flaws, especially not in fleshy overhanging targets situated on my hips for the whole world to see.  I would rather diet and workout, and wear the bigger size until I can fit perfectly into my smaller jeans.

There’s a popular saying, “don’t dress for the job you have, but for the job you want.” well, unfortunately it doesn’t work the same way with weight.  If it did I would be a muffin top offender too.  But it doesn’t, so please, just stop.

And remember kids, friends don’t let friends show muffin top.

Advertisements

Miss M.I.A.

Sorry guys, I have been M.I.A. pretty much the entire month of November.  The truth is, I got lazy.  That’s right I said it lazy.  The problem is, the longer I go without posting something, the less likely it is that I’ll start it up again, much like my Instagram account (I was once obsessed, but I barely ever even check out others photos on the site anymore let alone post any myself).  And, the thing is – I started this blog for a reason.  I needed an outlet and I still do, and I was seriously enjoying this, so why stop now?

I promise to nip this laziness in the bud and push past my procrastinating ways and insecurities.  I made a promise to myself that I would keep this up and now I am making this promise to you the reader (if you’re out there….reading this…).  So, now that I got that out of the way, lets talk about what has been going on this month.

1. I started my mini bathroom remodel (it’s a mini remodel for a mini bathroom)

…and by started I mean, I purchased spackle, a spackling knife and a block sander .  I had my Tom rip the towel hanger, toilet paper holder and paper towel dispenser out of the wall and I havent really done anything since…so basically my once barely functional ugly bathroom is now even less functional and even more ugly.  Tom is ready to kill me haha!

Notice the towel with no home and the “lightly used” spackle equipment….annnd the horrible pink tile YUCK!

2.I got my hair done (for the first time in 7 months!!)

since I already had a whole lot of grow out I opted for an ombre look, now that I can keep up!! It looks great and I happened to use someone new this time.  She is much closer to my house so I foresee a long happy relationship there.  I know some of you will probably be thinking ‘Ew, ombre just looks like you have terrible roots’, but in my opinion it reminds me of childhood hair (if done right) almost like a kid who played in the sun all summer long and now the sun-lightened locks are growing out and fading to your darker winter tones.  Plus, it’s super easy upkeep and I am all about that!

This is the only picture I could find that you can see my new do… but you get the idea, lighter on the bottom darker on the top

3.I started a new diet!

I have been doing a sort of Paleo type diet (AKA: the Caveman diet), meaning no grains, breads, pastas, dairy, alcohol, added sugar or artificial sugar, no fried foods and no processed foods.  I know, sounds awful – but really it’s been great, and no I havent been turned into a pod person, I am being serious!  One of the many plus sides to this diet is I have been cooking a lot more so that means a lot more delicious recipes are headed your way and all of them healthy.  And  a real plus side to this is that Tom has been eating better and of course he’s already lost 10 pounds! (…jerk)  I have lost 4 pounds so far too and it’s keeping me motivated to keep on this diet.

4. THANKSGIVING!!!

Since I have been on this diet, I promised myself that on Turkey Day, so long as I was diligent, I would eat what I wanted.  It was glorious!! And, this is probably the first Thanksgiving since I was a kid that I ate without guilt.  I didn’t feel like I was being bad or wrong and that was nice.  As you have, or will come to realize my relationship with food is a complicated one so being able to chow down without putting myself down felt really, really good. Plus, I got to see Toms’ side of the family this year (though I did miss my side) it was nice changing it up and seeing a different dynamic.  We also got to go to a friends holiday celebration…so really I got 2 Thanksgiving dinners (MmmmHmmm!!!). And my friend had two cats so you know I was happy stuffing my face and petting kitties 🙂

I don’t think the turkey realizes how this works….

 

So now that we are all caught up, I can’t wait to share all of my recipes and home projects with you!  And if you have any tips on how to push past laziness with writing a blog (or re-doing a room in your house) I’m all ears.  I could use all of the motivation I could get 🙂 And I would love to hear about your Thanksgiving diners as well…I dont like turkey but my favorite thing has got to be the stuffed mushrooms  – what is your favorite dish?

What’s on My Mind

I’d really like to write today.  It’s been a few days and I feel like I’ve got to put something out there, so here it goes.  I apologize in advance because this is likely going to end up a rambled mess since I don’t have a clear idea of what I am even writing about.  Also, I just chugged a cup of coffee and my fingers are trembling as I type.

I guess I should just sort out what’s on my mind…

I have now been unemployed for 10 months

Let that one sink in for a sec.  10 months.  That’s 2 short months away from a year.  Wow.  And what have I accomplished?  Well, aside from an amazing tan and starting a blog?  Nothing.   And for the first time in my adult life, I don’t have a plan.  No “this is what’s next” or “this is what I’d like to be doing”, I haven’t got a clue.

When I was first laid off, I thought “Wonderful, now I can finally focus on what I really want to do with my life!”  But now, I’ve come to realize that you must first know what it is that you want to be doing.  Talk about a quarter life crisis people… I honestly thought that now that I didn’t have a job, I would suddenly figure out my niche in life – as if because I don’t have all the distractions of commuting and meetings and clients, it would just fall into place, right before my eyes.

I thought going back to school was my solution, and maybe it was, but I got spooked once my bill was due and decided not to go through with it.  I’m at the point now where I feel hopelessly lost and filled with anxiety over this entire situation.  I am applying for jobs that I don’t really want, but am amply qualified, if not over-qualified for, and even that is getting me nowhere.  Apparently, no one wants to hire someone that’s been out of work for 10 months.  It’s true; check it out here.

I am lucky enough to have an amazingly supportive boyfriend, who hasn’t once made me feel inadequate or pressured about not finding a job.  I’m in a very fortunate position financially as well, since I did have a good paying job for the last 4 years and not many overhead expenses I was able to save a decent amount to keep me afloat.  For me, thankfully, this is only an existential crisis, but that doesn’t stop me from feeling like a complete failure.

Seriously…

My insomnia is back with a vengeance

If you’ve been reading my blog, then you know I have an issue with falling asleep (read this, it’s good for a laugh…).  And while I like catching up on late night TV, and reading, and contemplating the mysteries of the universe, I like sleep a whole lot more.  I’m a more productive and well-adjusted member of society when I’ve gotten at least 6 solid hours in.  The fact that my boyfriend happens to work for a reputable mattress company that’s focused on “selling sleep” is just the ironic icing on the f*ck you cake.

The fact that I have a sleep disorder is not the only issue.  An equally annoying problem is all of the good-intentioned folks who think they can cure me by giving me the most obvious advice.  Don’t get me wrong; I understand that they’re just trying to help.  Besides, we’ve all done it.  We just want people to feel better.  Most human beings don’t find it sufficient to just say, “wow, that sucks” and call it a day.  Most people, in my experience, want to kiss your boo-boo and make it all better; but let’s be real – I have had problems sleeping for almost half my life, if you think I haven’t tried just about anything to fix it you’ve got to be delusional.  If I hear, “maybe you should take melatonin” or “you should try staying away from caffeine” one more time, I just might snap.

“Maybe you should just close your eyes” is another gem that makes me want to punch your lights out.

On the plus side, there has been a few nights I was glad to be awake during the wee hours of the morning.  Like 2 weeks ago when one of my friends got in at 4:30 AM and decided to drunk-skype with me.  I mean, to think I could’ve missed out on that because of sleep?!  Ah, who am I kidding, sleep would have been fantastic (it was pretty entertaining for about 30 minutes though…).

When I have been sleeping, I’ve been having the craziest and realistic feeling dreams.  Last night, it was that I owned a jaguar (the cat, not the car) and I was worried that if I left my door open while I slept, it would eat my face.  That was the most normal dream I’ve had in a month.

Fortunately, I know that my sleep “issues” come in cycles, and it seems that it’s winding down.  I have actually gotten a decent nights’ sleep for 6 days in a row now.  For now, I’ll take that as a win, but nonetheless it’s something that has been on my mind.

I’m not nearly as “fit” as I’d like to be

This is one of those issues that I’m sure many of you out there can relate to.  It’s also one of the most self-deprecating areas of my life.  I am a very confident person. I know I have a fun personality, I know I’m reasonably good-looking and I know I’m relatively smart.  When it comes to my body however, well, there I am just full of insecurities and self-hate.

I blame myself, I always have.  Starting as a pre-teen, and up until I was about 19 or so I struggled with bulimia; and though that is a much longer and more complicated story than I am prepared to go into a the moment, I will say, that I still struggle with the same thoughts and feelings about my weight and body as I did then, even if I don’t go through the process of bingeing and purging.

I am currently the heaviest I have ever been in my life.  I feel ashamed and disgusted by this fact.

Even though my I tend to put the full blame on myself, I know this is not entirely in my control.  Right around the time I was laid off, I was diagnosed with PCOS or Polycystic Ovary Syndrome.  I had never gotten a consistent period without the use of birth control, and once I went off of it, I quickly put on 15 pounds that I have been unable to lose, despite my calorie tracking and work outs.

I know if I really put all of my effort into my workouts and diet I can achieve success, but sometimes it’s hard to push through when I just want to give up.  It’s beyond frustrating to feel like my body just won’t work with me and to know that this will likely be a life-long struggle.

The scale says, “nope”

So there you have it.  These are the 3 things that have been plaguing my thoughts lately and steadily driving me into crisis mode.  I know this wasn’t the most cheerful of posts and I’m sorry if I came off as a complaining, unmotivated, mess – but right now, that’s kind of where I’m at and I just needed to vent it out. These problems may seem insignificant to some of you, and you’re probably right – It could definitely be worse and I’m thankful that it’s not.  I just have to keep one foot in front of the other and try not to get seduced by laziness to get though this.  I’ll get there someday, I’m sure of it.